Too Proud to ask for Direction

This past weekend, my third son, Mikael and I attended the annual Promise Keepers Conference. We came out of it exhilarated and exhausted at the same time. There were a lot of spiritual nuggets to digest, and yet, those were delectables that give nutrients to the spirit.

The inspiration behind this year’s conference theme is Jeremiah 6:16: “Stand at the crossroads and look; ask for the ancient path...and walk in it.” The conference focused on finding God’s direction in life. Four speakers, a dramatist and a worship band fueled the hearts, minds and spirits of 2,000 men listening to the messages March 6 and 7 at Church of the Rock in Winnipeg.

It’s one thing to lose your way on the highway; it’s quite another lose your way in life, says Lennett Anderson, keynote speaker who opened the sessions with his energetic and inspirational talk in the two-day men’s conference.

Lennett regaled the audience with one of his car window-shopping sprees where he became quite disappointed when he sat in the cockpit of a luxurious Lexus that seemed to have everything, from a DVD player, a monitor, and wireless Bluetooth Internet access, a hand-free mobile phone, to a superb Surround Sound stereo system, except a GPS system.

When he complained to the car salesman, Lennett was told, “You don’t need a GPS. You have your own operating system.” At those words, Lennett woke up to the fact: “That’s my problem in life all along. I have been using my own operating system, that’s my fleshly desires, my carnal wants, and anything that begins with ‘my’. No wonder I do not get anywhere.”

Speaking at the men’s conference for the third consecutive year, Lennett Anderson, a dynamic and motivational pastor from Nova Scotia, addresses the masculine resistance to direction, recommending a navigational instrument: GPS.

No! It’s not the electronic gadgetry that seduces one with a coy and seductive female voice directing one to turn this way or that way.

GPS is “God’s Programming System”, guys!

“We rely on our carnal operating system and go round and round in life much like the Israelites did. They wandered in the desert for forty years when it should have been a four week journey. One of the devil’s tools is to get us caught up in a deadly cycle,” Anderson says. “We can break this hopeless cycle by accessing GPS through God’s Word and the work of His Spirit. If you humble yourself and ask God for His GPS, you’ll encounter Him.”

“With GPS, you move when God moves like the Israelites who followed the Ark of Covenant. They eventually crossed River Jordan and arrived at the Promised Land of milk and honey,” says Anderson.

“The creator of a product knows how it should work. He has the user manual.” To access GPS, one needs to go to God’s word, watch the movement of His Spirit, and listen to His still, small voice, Anderson suggests.

Professional actor, Jason Hildebrand, performed a one-man three-act play, “The Prodigal Trilogy”, in extrapolating the deep emotions of the three main characters (the prodigal son, the older brother, and the father) found in the Gospel story, “The Prodigal Son”. The emotions portrayed were intense, ultimately expressing the Father's Heart of God for each one of us.

Nate Larkin, an author, a speaker, and a one-time minister, gave an account of his sexual addiction to pornography and prostitution while in ministry. He spoke about masks, which he referred to as personas, that we put on “to win the day” in different life situations.

“The religious persona is by far the most tragic,” Larkin says, “My daily struggles [with porn and sexual promiscuity] continued for many years. I became quite tired of spinning around in circles. I wanted a private solution to my private problem. No! It didn’t work until I gathered the guts to confess them to others and invited them to hold me accountable.”

Larkin advises men to follow God’s prescription found in James 5:16: “… confess your sins to each other so that you may be healed”. “Don’t be a solo disciple!” he warns.

Doug Weiss, a marriage counsellor, gives the audience a fresh outlook at marriage. “Your wife is God’s precious daughter, and that makes God your Father-in-law.” Weiss draws a parallel between Christ’s relationship with His church and the relationship between husband and wife: “The purpose of marriage is not to make you happy. It is to make you Christ-like.”

Doug Weiss gives practical tips in making the daily journey of marriage a joyous one. He suggests praying with one’s spouse, walking patiently as bearing the fruit of the Holy Spirit, knowing that the purpose of marriage is to become more Christ-like, and living a life of sexual purity.

“A woman needs emotional release as much as a man needs sexual orgasm,” says Weiss. He suggests that a husband shares two feelings each day with one’s wife and attentively enquires about her needs with “What can I do for you?” and “Is there anything else?”

Bruce Wilkinson, author of The Prayer of Jabez and Secret of the Vine, describes five stages of a spiritual journey. The moment we accept Christ as our personal Saviour marks the first stage. In the next stage, God tests us with difficult decisions: “God wants to see where your loyalty lies.” At the third stage, God asks us to surrender to Him as a “living sacrifice”. The fourth stage finds us saying ”Yes” to God more when He exacts what’s precious to us. Those who freely dedicate their lives to God as His bond-servants are at the final stage of spiritual maturity.

In the final session of the conference as a reprise, Bruce Wilkinson shares alarming Gallup Poll statistics that say “90% of churches are declining, and, most young people under 23 are leaving the church and not likely to return.”

He asks, “What’s broken?”

Wilkinson attributes plummeting church attendance statistics to misplaced priorities. He believes the Church is suffering from “Sunday-itis,” and it fails to help believers translate Sunday fervor into Monday-through-Saturday living. “We are more concerned with church building, operating costs, administration and attendance than with touching others. A pastor’s primary role is to disciple his flock (“Feed My sheep”), who in turn will disciple others. This is the vision of Jesus’ Great Commission,” says Wilkinson.

Wilkinson gives an impassioned and almost-impromptu plea in urging the Church to return to the way Jesus intends it to be: “We have drifted from God’s will. We are all called to be ministers…to minister, through the work of the Holy Spirit, to one another as they did in Acts,” he said. “The early church would serve as an effective model of interpersonal support in these tough economic times. The hope of the world resides in His Church.”

Let’s live out the prophetic words that we, the church, may prove to be the hope of this fallen and broken world.